I'm now coming out,
to everybody who knows me.
This is the real me.
-Looking for myself, ©Jojonel.-
I myself did not expect a Part II of this entry. But here I am, to explain my perspective of being a bisexual.

This entry is for a friend whom I still regard as friend, one that I respect because of his fantastic art skills. One that is eccentric is his own special way. One that is a unique individual who is who he is today, because of his uniqueness.

And a friend he may no longer be, because he hates bisexuals. His words.

And ouch, they hurt.

His words actually hurt me because I love him as a friend. His opinion does matter to me, in a way.

So, it's a choice between me losing my identity and losing a dear friend.

Before I decide on anything, hear me out.

The scientific and religious theory of why God created Man and Woman. One of the reasons is to ensure that humans do not extinct. Hence said friend's 'hole and stick theory'. With bisexuality, infertility among humans occur.

Okay, first up, not all humans are bisexuals. I can safely say, the majority of us human beings living on Earth are heterosexuals. There's definitely low chances of human beings facing extinction, because there are the majority of heterosexuals that help to ensure the existence of the future generations. We have so many cases of abandoned babies. In my opinion, I actually think we're facing overpopulation right now.

Secondly, I'm aware that my choice in being a bisexual might be against Nature. Against God. Against the laws of life. But being a bisexual does not mean I'll be in a sexual relationship with people of the same sex. At this age, when I say that I'm a bisexual, it's more to 'mutual attraction to both sexes'. Who knows, I might be a lesbian when I'm older? Or I might just grow out of being a bisexual. So many people at this age of being teenagers or young adults are confused or unsure of their sexuality. At least I know I'm quite sure. For the time being.

Thirdly, I'm not influencing other people to be bisexuals. I'm not encouraging same-gender sex at all. I never said that. So, if I have to sin, at least I knew I sinned being myself. I'm not forcing other people to sin. I chose to sin, by choosing to be myself. If I have to go to Hell for this, by all means. Even if this choice of being a bisexual is a mistake, all humans make mistakes. This is a phase in my life. I'm not forcing people to go through this similar phase. Like I said before, this revolves around choices. I made my choice, other people are free to make theirs.

Fourthly, being a bisexual does not make me any different from you, you and you. Only my sexual preferences differ slightly. I eat, I sleep, I go to school, I make friends, I study. I like music, I like books, I like the arts. I love photography, I love fashion. Being a bisexual does not affect my everyday life with my family and friends. Sure, only my brother knows I'm bi in my entire family. And not all of my friends know. But hey, I still live life like a normal teen.

Therefore, here are my reasons.

Friend, I know you're a devout Christian. And I'm aware that bisexuality is against God's teachings, God's words, God's creations. I attend my school's Christian Fellowship, even though I'm not a Christian. I like to learn about other religions, not only Buddhism. In fact, I think I'm more learned in Christianity and Islam than my own religion.

So, maybe you want to save me from sinning any further. I understand your good intentions. I'm thankful for your concern.

But friend, if you really cannot accept me for who I am, I'll respect your decision in not being friends with me anymore.

I'm sorry if that happens, really.

But I cannot please everybody, I cannot change myself according to what people expect of me.

I apologise, friend.

★☮♥
And to my classmates, just a friendly reminder.

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It’s not an English name I came up with for myself. My mother is indeed a genius in coming up with such a splendid name for me. Although my name has been unfortunately mutilated (nicknames are excluded) over the past years, full credits to my mum for my current identity.

I’m certainly looking forward to changing the word ‘patient’ to ‘survivor’! If you’re interested to read about my journey in battling lymphoma, you can click here to proceed to my cancer blog.

Ironic, I know; this blog is mainly pink instead. I like all colours actually, but I find myself having an affinity to the colour green. In fact, I can safely say that green is my soul colour.

Languages, music, fashion, photography, cultures, dance, literature, writing; just about anything, really. The arts truly intrigue me, especially thought-provoking pieces. Of course, the arts play a major role in inspiring me in my everyday life.

I don’t have a favourite genre – I read any book that interests me!

I am a trained right-hander from young, since apparently being left-handed is considered ‘wrong’. Basically, I’m ambidextrous! No wonder I find it easier to air guitar using my left hand than my right; I simply relate to the arts than subjects that deal with logical thinking better, too.

A stubborn Bull I am, too. I abhor being rushed. I prefer doing matters at my own reasonable pace. I don’t particularly like changes in my routine, but I can adapt quite easily. I’m a very practical person as well. I enjoy the beautiful things in life, but that doesn’t make me shun ugliness at all. Besides, it all depends on how one perceives beauty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

Still am, but I’m slowly learning to accept imperfection into my life. Also, I’m doing my best to erase the many expectations I have so I could one day master the art of letting go and freeing myself to simple happiness and joy.

Compared to before, I’m less dramatic nowadays. Language-wise, I attempt to blog flawlessly in English and speak proper English online with my peers. Call me a Grammar Nazi all you want, but that’s how I roll. I only converse in perfect English in formal situations and during my dramatic outbursts. Otherwise, I’m absolutely capable of communicating like the average Malaysian!

It’s a different issue altogether when you’re forced to learn for the sake of getting good grades, though. Other than that, I’m open to new information and knowledge anytime! I especially would like to learn more languages and pick up new musical instruments.

…are just some of the things I would love to do in the near future, hopefully!

the basic rules apply. If you respect me, I’ll respect you. If you happen to be someone who has low EQ skills, I’ll try to be tolerant but my patience is definitely limited. I’m observant when it comes to human behaviour. I’m a person of many opinions, but I don’t voice them out unless I trust you enough; I’m very honest and candid when it comes to the people I can trust. Even though I trust very easily, not everybody can prove that they’re all that nice. Hurt me, and I’ll only defend myself if necessary. Hurt my family or my friends – you won’t find me holding back.

Is there anything else you would like to know about me?
Throw me your questions and/or doubts here! I honestly have nothing to hide, so you’ll expect the truth and nothing but the truth.

It’s only how I phrase my answers that you’ll have to be aware of.
Or…you can click hereto go back to reading!

I'm now coming out,
to everybody who knows me.
This is the real me.
-Looking for myself, ©Jojonel.-
I myself did not expect a Part II of this entry. But here I am, to explain my perspective of being a bisexual.

This entry is for a friend whom I still regard as friend, one that I respect because of his fantastic art skills. One that is eccentric is his own special way. One that is a unique individual who is who he is today, because of his uniqueness.

And a friend he may no longer be, because he hates bisexuals. His words.

And ouch, they hurt.

His words actually hurt me because I love him as a friend. His opinion does matter to me, in a way.

So, it's a choice between me losing my identity and losing a dear friend.

Before I decide on anything, hear me out.

The scientific and religious theory of why God created Man and Woman. One of the reasons is to ensure that humans do not extinct. Hence said friend's 'hole and stick theory'. With bisexuality, infertility among humans occur.

Okay, first up, not all humans are bisexuals. I can safely say, the majority of us human beings living on Earth are heterosexuals. There's definitely low chances of human beings facing extinction, because there are the majority of heterosexuals that help to ensure the existence of the future generations. We have so many cases of abandoned babies. In my opinion, I actually think we're facing overpopulation right now.

Secondly, I'm aware that my choice in being a bisexual might be against Nature. Against God. Against the laws of life. But being a bisexual does not mean I'll be in a sexual relationship with people of the same sex. At this age, when I say that I'm a bisexual, it's more to 'mutual attraction to both sexes'. Who knows, I might be a lesbian when I'm older? Or I might just grow out of being a bisexual. So many people at this age of being teenagers or young adults are confused or unsure of their sexuality. At least I know I'm quite sure. For the time being.

Thirdly, I'm not influencing other people to be bisexuals. I'm not encouraging same-gender sex at all. I never said that. So, if I have to sin, at least I knew I sinned being myself. I'm not forcing other people to sin. I chose to sin, by choosing to be myself. If I have to go to Hell for this, by all means. Even if this choice of being a bisexual is a mistake, all humans make mistakes. This is a phase in my life. I'm not forcing people to go through this similar phase. Like I said before, this revolves around choices. I made my choice, other people are free to make theirs.

Fourthly, being a bisexual does not make me any different from you, you and you. Only my sexual preferences differ slightly. I eat, I sleep, I go to school, I make friends, I study. I like music, I like books, I like the arts. I love photography, I love fashion. Being a bisexual does not affect my everyday life with my family and friends. Sure, only my brother knows I'm bi in my entire family. And not all of my friends know. But hey, I still live life like a normal teen.

Therefore, here are my reasons.

Friend, I know you're a devout Christian. And I'm aware that bisexuality is against God's teachings, God's words, God's creations. I attend my school's Christian Fellowship, even though I'm not a Christian. I like to learn about other religions, not only Buddhism. In fact, I think I'm more learned in Christianity and Islam than my own religion.

So, maybe you want to save me from sinning any further. I understand your good intentions. I'm thankful for your concern.

But friend, if you really cannot accept me for who I am, I'll respect your decision in not being friends with me anymore.

I'm sorry if that happens, really.

But I cannot please everybody, I cannot change myself according to what people expect of me.

I apologise, friend.

★☮♥
And to my classmates, just a friendly reminder.

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